The Mother Load: Surviving the Daily Grind Without Losing Your Ever Loving Mind

Dexterity: K-LOVE Bks. Apr. 2023. 256p. ISBN 9781947297647. pap. $18.95. CHILD REARING
Ethington (blogger, Perfection Pending; Mom Life) has struggled with anxiety and depression, and she writes from that lens in this first-person narrative designed to help mothers who feel overwhelmed every day. She tackles changes in the body, mind, and relationships that often occur during the childbearing years in this personal book filled with amusing anecdotes, such as the time her baby locked her in the laundry room after learning pincer grasp. The book also examines the cognitive-labor gap between different types of parents, with research showing that same-sex couples may share the load more equally. Advice is centered around vulnerability, seeking help when necessary, giving permission for feelings, and finding what works. The author includes challenges that have escalated since the pandemic began and the ever-present culture of toxic positivity. The author is vulnerable, and her first-person perspective brings authenticity to the text. In some situations, however, the author projects conclusions and opinions, based solely on her own experiences and not research, that may not resonate with all readers.
VERDICT Many mothers grapple with mental illness diagnoses, and this volume, despite a limited perspective, shows that they are not alone.
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