So When Are You Having Kids?: The Definitive Guide for Those Who Aren’t Sure If, When, or How They Want To Become Parents

Davidson (founder, Endo Warriors) fills a gap for readers who are struggling to decide whether to ever become parents. At age 24, the author was diagnosed with diminished ovarian reserve. Along with her thousands of dollars in student loan debt, it prompted her to ponder whether she could have children, as she struggled with depression, made dietary changes, and visited a therapist and a fertility specialist. Here she addresses her own concerns about parenthood and those of people she calls “Delayers,” “Debaters,” and “Decliners”—concerns like mental illness, health conditions, and even climate change—and offers extensive guidance on deciding whether to have children. Davidson pays particular attention to the obstacles to parenthood faced by queer people, like high costs to conceive and heteronormative parenting ideals). She also notes that Black prospective parents often must deal with particular racist discrimination, especially if they become parents at a young age or are single parents.