X-Plan Parenting: Become Your Child's Ally

X-Plan Parenting: Become Your Child's Ally—A Guide to Raising Strong Kids in a Challenging World. Howard. Jun. 2019. 320p. ISBN 9781982112011. pap. $16.99; ebk. ISBN 9781982112028. CHILD REARING
Former teacher and psychologist Fulks directs a nonprofit ministry for drug-addicted youth and is a stay-at-home dad and blogger. His blog entry on the "X-plan" was discovered by K-LOVE radio station and received millions of hits from around the country. The concept, the letter X being the thing we solve for, here representing the mystery of who each child is meant to become, emerged after Fulks asked a group of young people in addiction recovery if they'd ever found themselves in uncomfortable situations but ended up sticking around because they felt they didn't have a way out. All of the teens raised their hands. Fulks then designed a plan for his own children that involves texting an "X" to a family member who will give the teen a way out with no questions asked. Fulks here covers topics such as allowing your child to fail, trusting your child, and helping your child through painful situations. Rather than providing tips, each chapter poses questions for parents to ponder, ending with "how will your kids answer these questions in thirty years?"
VERDICT Christian principles guide this work, but many of the ideas, such as the "X" plan, will likely resonate with a wider audience.
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