I Love You, But I Hate Your Politics: How To Protect Your Intimate Relationships in a Poisonous Partisan World

St. Martin's. Jun. 2019. 272p. ISBN 9781250200396. $27.99; ebk. ISBN 9781250200402. SELF-HELP
It's no surprise that many books today focus on the theme of caring for one another despite partisan political beliefs. Safer (The Golden Condom; Cain's Legacy) tackles the strain of political differences on personal relationships by basing her work on more than 50 interviews with couples of mixed opinions, taking her analysis beyond the content of common disagreements to consider how they illustrate our compulsion to change someone else's mind about a given subject. She investigates core values and stresses an appreciation for multiple viewpoints, stating the emphasis should be on taking into account another person's feelings, while exhibiting kindness, respect, and a willingness to respond to form a deeper understanding.
VERDICT An excellent choice for those coming to terms with a family member's alternate view. Another solid resource is Sarah Stewart Holland and Beth Silvers's I Think You're Wrong (But I'm Listening). Both are highly recommended.
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