Duped: Double Lives, False Identities, and the Con Man I Almost Married

PublicAffairs: Perseus. Jan. 2019. 272p. ISBN 9781610398008. $27; ebk. ISBN 9781610398015. MEMOIR
Journalist Ellin (Teenage Waistland) was poised to marry the Commander, a former Navy SEAL and CIA operative who'd swept her off her feet only months before their engagement. But as their wedding approached, Ellin discovered that the Commander was nearly none of the things he claimed to be—and that he was, in fact, engaged to another woman. In an effort to understand her experience, Ellin delved into the world of people living double lives, using research and interviews to show how we learn to lie and what happens to us when we do. Ellin maintains a strong focus on the "dupee," as she grapples with society's scorn of those who've been duped as well as her own inability to see the warning signs. The author's writing shines when exploring this topic, and her candid admissions and conversational tone make for an entertaining and thought-provoking narrative. For readers looking for a more in-depth account, numerous references to additional research on the topic are provided.
VERDICT Pop psychology fans and adventurous book clubs will be at home here. Recommended for public libraries.

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